“Jealousy is an inner consciousness of one’s own inferiority. It is a mental cancer.” – B.C. Forbes
Dear Fellow Warrior,
I had other writing planned for today, and maybe I can still get to that, but I need to get this off my chest. I guess I am slowly realizing that social media won’t help, because even if people relate to you, they are too afraid to engage you on contentious or delicate topics. That’s the cost of authenticity in a neoliberal capitalist world.
Maybe they are triggered because they see themselves in the societal illnesses that you critique.
In any case, I can’t wait for the time when I’m ready to write the perfect article on what I’ve been calling the Jealousy Pandemic, complete with evidence-based research and references. That day will come. This one is coming straight from the heart.
So here are just a few thoughts for catharsis.
Jealousy is no doubt a contagious disease, and I’m SOOOO very tired of jealous people.
Jealous people may have everything: social and financial capital, the community, the job, the healthcare, the spouse, the children.
But if God is their witness, they still can’t stand to see you win at anything. They want you to have nothing. Their hatred stems from deep insecurity, and it is palpable.
They think they’re subtle, but they’re not. And worse, they won’t change, even when they know you’ve caught on.
They can’t stand to see you be seen. They’ll never uplift you. But they won’t stop watching you either, with their evil eyes. Because just like you figured them out, they’ve figured you out too. They know your weak points. They know exactly where to strike to bring you down.
Some of them are just the worst kind of people, because they feed off your struggles. They exploit your mental health, your pain, your vulnerability, your disorders, as if these are flaws, not the battle scars of your survival.
They weaponize your humanity against you.
Some of them even pretend to support you when you’re struggling, only to vanish the moment you rise, the moment you reclaim your power, the moment you empower yourself. And when you finally see what they are doing, they disappear in a heartbeat. Confirming their jealousy.
Confirming, once again, your superpower: the ability to read people accurately. A gift. A curse. But one that rarely fails.
Even through trauma, you somehow find space in your heart for love and forgiveness. Forgiveness they don’t deserve… for betrayal, for mistrust, for abandonment. But what makes it harder to forgive is that in their eyes, you are the villain.
Not because you hurt them, but because you exposed the truth they hoped to keep hidden. Because you figured them out.
And they have no softness for you. Because they were never built to love you or perhaps anyone.
They were clearly born to hate people.
So let me repeat this… people can have so much more than you…money, community, relationships, stability… and still be out of their minds with jealousy. Why?
Because of your potential. Your energy. Your drive. Your thirst and hunger. Your incredible talent that exceeds theirs, even though you are the underdog, but is not yet seen and discovered in this world.
Because they sense something powerful in you that they can’t control, imitate, or kill.
If you really genuinely want to be a good person, stop being jealous of your friends.
Friends, Acquaintances, Family, Colleagues. Anyone.
Just stop.
If you think your jealousy isn’t obvious, I promise you… it is.
Online and offline, it’s one of the most toxic, corrosive energies out there.
Yes, it is human. It’s natural. I’ve read about it. I’ve studied the psychology of it. I’ve sat with books, articles, academic papers to try and understand it. I’ve done the inner work to tame it within myself, because yes, I am human, and yes I have been jealous.
But this is it… because I’ve worked hard to master my envy, I can sense it instantly in others. I have a radar for it. And it still triggers me, because it feels unfair to constantly be targeted by those who haven’t done their own work, when I have done mine…
… When I make myself available to support others, and show public proof that I celebrate others, even through my own vulnerabilities. I have my receipts.
I’ll probably do a video in the future or finish the article about what I call the Jealousy Pandemic, which has increased the past five years since the actual Global Pandemic began. Because that’s what it is… a silent epidemic, especially among people who claim to be close to you. When jealousy is in your core circles, or even friends and colleagues, that is when it hurts the most.
I watched a segment from Oprah Winfrey, where she states that if anyone has even a hint of jealousy in them against you, you cannot be friends with them.
“You cannot be friends with people who secretly want your life.” – Oprah Winfrey
What intrigues me is that they have so much. But they still want something that you have. The imbalance of having so much but still hating on others has always intrigued me.
And when it comes to my mental health, knowing how much I have been struggling and fighting, just trying to survive, and still, some people did nothing. They didn’t reach out. They didn’t check in. Instead… they were jealous of the moments I tried to empower myself online...
I just have no words for that. Wow. My heart stops every time I think about it.
Watching someone struggle and still choosing to resent them instead of uplifting them? That’s not just jealousy. That’s cruelty.
We see the rubbish, the fake support, the lies, and we still choose to rise.
And if you struggle with jealousy, but you’re actually working on it, I commend you. Truly. Your self-awareness is rare. You’re doing a service not just to yourself, but to every relationship you are part of, online and offline. That’s more than most people ever do. So keep at it.
Don’t ever think this isn’t important stuff because of the many other crazy things going on in the world. That kind of inner work is powerful. And necessary.
I hope to share more on this in future posts. Thank you for being here.
Happy Mental Health Awareness Month.
Solidarity, Peace, Warmth, and Blessings,
Your Sister, Dr. Elsa, Warrior KQueen
“She wasn’t looking for a Knight. She was looking for a Sword.” – Atticus
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